http://billystyle.com

I Want You to Meet Somebody

8

You're really nice, reliable, considerate, and not my type.I don’t know if I’ve mentioned it in here before, but as a single guy around 30 years old, I’ve been put in so many ridiculously awkward date set up situations; you married people just don’t understand.

I realize that this only represents a small percentage of married couples, so I apologize to the majority of people who would never think to do such a horrible thing. Thank you.

I really don’t know what it is about people, namely married people. And, as a member of a very socially active church, I think things may be even more annoying for me than if I wasn’t religiously active.

I’ll skip really telling any history about set ups I’ve avoided and given in to because that would take too long. I will say that the best thing that has ever come out of any of the “dates” is a good steak dinner and some useless conversation that will never cross my brain again.

See, for some reason, people, mostly church people, feel that they are the ones who know exactly what I am looking for. They have just the girl for me. They often times tell me this immediately following our first introduction. For all they know, I may not even speak English! I’m just a tall, tan single guy (the handsome part is very debatable, the tall and dark part are easily proven) who has a tendency to treat strangers with kindness. These people see a guy like that and jump all over the opportunity to try and add some jewelry to my bare hands.

Now, here’s what baffles me. I would argue that the single most important decision of a person’s life is deciding if they should or should not marry their current boyfriend/girlfriend and spend the rest of their life with that person. So why on Earth would a middle aged married person have any thought at all that they probably know of a girl unlike any that I’ve met before, and will be the one to sweep me off of my feet. Of course there are many variables that lead up to the ultimate decision, but let’s look at the logic of that stranger being right about what my type of girl is.

It's not me, it's you.First, let’s look inside the brain of the schemer, the one trying to set me up with their sweet-spirited girl. What could their reasoning be that could take them so far as to offer to buy me dinner if I but go on a date with this girl? Do they want to feel like a savior to me and have me be forever indebted to them? Do they just thrive off of prodding people into HUGE life decisions on a whim? Do they imagine that I’ve only met horrible girls who eat onions and asparagus, never floss, and haven’t heard of soap? Do I look like a desperate loser who would wet myself if I ever tried to ask a girl out? Do they think I’ve never dated a girl? Do they think I have no taste or horrible vision? Or maybe, just maybe, do they happen to know a 6 foot tall girl with the looks of Kim Kardashian and the personality of Zooey Deschanel’s character in Yes Man who happen to love wakeboarding? (By the way, if you know this woman, please disregard this post and do send her my way.) So far, that last one has never been the case.

Now, I know that none of these schemers actually, deep down, don’t care if I just meet her and say “No thank you.” Nobody goes to that kind of effort for that result, they just don’t. They all want me to date and marry the girl. Think about it. Why would they want anything else? This is the perfect match! I won’t just date her and then leave, get dumped, or dump her, then it wouldn’t be perfect! I will marry her and we will live happily ever after!

Let's take things to the previous level.Okay, so that’s obviously how I see these people who insist on setting me up with their gentle ogre friends. Now let’s look at some things that seem much more reasonable to me, but never seem to happen.

Strangers never introduce themselves to me and suggest a restaurant to me. They never tell me that they just bought some new socks and they are super comfortable and then tell me where to get them and how much they cost. I’ve never been approached and given directions to a stranger’s favorite place to shop. And nobody has ever hunted me down to share with me their secret to building the perfect grilled hamburger. Why not? Well, in today’s society, that would just be weird!

I’m fine with all those previous things being thought of as a bit too personal to just blurb about to a complete stranger. So, answer me this: Why would ANYBODY EVER think it isn’t strange to suggest to somebody exactly whom they should decide to marry and deeply love the rest of their entire life? I mean really, think about it! All of the things in the previous paragraph would affect a tiny part of my life, and if I didn’t like the pointer, I wouldn’t really be changed too much. I’d either gain from it or just shrug it off. But a relationship affects you for the rest of your life.

I don’t really have a big concluding thought other than if you are one of these people who like to set people up on dates, PLEASE STOP! Tell people about your favorite salad dressing or shampoo or something. STOP TRYING TO RUIN LIVES! When you set two people up on a date, all four people are almost always going to get hurt. You and your spouse are two of those people, the one who got canned obviously will be hurt, and the one who did the canning will have to feel and/or look like a jerk. It’s a lose/lose/lose/lose situation!

Oddly enough, it’s been almost a year since I was talked into going on one of these dates. I ate the food, watched a movie in a theater and took off. I haven’t spoken more than 20 words to anybody involved in that night since, and none of those words were about said night. I’m just constantly baffled at people around me.

I realize that in many set-up type of situations, the schemers are “friends” or acquaintances of the poor target (me). I just see that as a much stronger reason to respect me and let me take care of my own HUGE life decisions.

Now that I got this off of my back, I’m excited to confront the next person who thinks they can waltz in to my life and magically send me spiraling into a storybook tale of everlasting love. This volcano will erupt!

Comments (8)

…oh man, that reminds me. I HAVE to introduce you to this girl my sister’s friend knows. She LOVES blants. (blog rants)

You lost me at “Zooey Deschanel”—hummana hummana!

Dude, I’m with you. As a divorcee, trust me, things are just as bad. It’s like, once you’ve been married, everyone thinks you need to get married again (and somehow, there’s something wrong if you don’t want to do that). I’ve found, it’s often these folks’ insecurities that are driving such suggestions, but as a person who isn’t dating and doesn’t plan on it anytime soon, I understand exactly what you mean. I’d much rather meet someone in a laundromat or in the product section. That way, no social connections get their feelbads hurt.

Oh you kill me!!! For real, this should be in a newspaper explaining why blind dates are a no, no! I couldn’t agree with you more. People think just because you’re single and their BFF is also single you would be perfect together. Truth be told Billy, I’ve known you for a long time, and I love you but I wouldn’t try to find a girl for you just as I wouldn’t want someone to find a guy for me. Truthfully, that would be awkward for our friendship if it didn’t work out or if she turned out to be a total hooker, you could blame me forever! However, promise me when your Kim Kardashian/Zooey Decshanel woman comes along, you’ll let me know. Love this post. It’s too good!

Billy has a fever, and the only prescription is MORE EXCLAMATION POINTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

P.S. The next time you go on an epic rant like this, you need to do use ALL CAPS.

P.P.S. Excellent e-cards. I was surprised you didn’t include this one: http://www.someecards.com/breakup-cards/im-still-your-friend-even-though-you-dumped

GOOD CALL BRIANX0R!!!!!!! SPEAKING OF CAPS LOCK, YOU SHOULD INSTALL THIS!!!!

http://johnhaller.com/jh/useful_stuff/billy_mays_caps_lock/

AND IF YOU DON’T HAVE A PC TO USE IT ON, SNEAK IT ONTO OTHER PEOPLE’S COMPUTERS, IT’S THE BEST SOFTWARE EVER!!!!!!!!

This is so true. I know exactly what Jared is talking about! I had a horrible blind date. My friend’s mom set it up. After the date, I write call her asking why in hell she thought me and him were a good match. Her answer: “He’s tall and you’re tall. You’re athletic and so is he…and uhhhhh, and you’re both single.” Awesome, eh?

Write a comment